May 20
“The true meaning of non-resistance has often been misunderstood or even distorted. It never implies that a nonviolent man should bend before the violence of an aggressor.”
–Gandhi (Harijan, 3-30-1947, p. 85-86)
Have you ever heard the story about the snake and the sage?
One day a wise, old sage was passing through a village and the village children crowded around him because they were terrified of a cobra that lived in the field where they played. So the sage sought out the serpent and admonished him not to bite the children, gave him a mantram to repeat, and went on his way.
The snake was a very dedicated devotee, and the children of the village began to notice that the old, mean cobra was no longer vicious. But, they were still afraid of him. Taking advantage of the snake’s peaceful state, whenever they would see him, they would pick him up by the tail end, whirl him around and hit him down, hard, onto the ground.
Years later, the sage comes back through the village. “Where is my devotee?” No one had seen the snake in a while. Many thought that he must be dead. The sage replied that the prospect of death was impossible, as he had given him a mantram that had to be fulfilled. So he went on a search to find him. When he did, he found a weak creature, barely alive, bruised and broken. The teacher was saddened by his poor state. “What happened?” he asked. “Teacher, I did as you told me and would not bite anyone in the village, but when they saw that I would no longer bite them, they swung me around and threw me to the ground.” “Fool!” The teacher replied, “I told you not to bite, but I never told you not to hiss!”
The moral of the story is that if our choice is to be beaten or to stand up for ourselves, nonviolence tells us that there are ways that we can stand up for ourselves without harming others in the process. We can hiss, when absolutely necessary. But like most teachings of nonviolence, we need to do so without fear or anger in our hearts, as well as address the issue of what made the hissing necessary in the first place.
Experiment in Nonviolence:
Retell the story of the sage and the cobra and discuss it with someone new to nonviolence.
Daily Metta 2015, a service of the Metta Center for Nonviolence, is a daily reflection on the strategic and spiritual insights of Mahatma Gandhi in thought, word and deed. As Gandhi called his life an “experiment in truth,” we have included an experiment in nonviolence to accompany each Daily Metta. Check in every day for new inspiration. Each year will be dedicated to another wisdom teacher.
Dealing with conflict is very simple–there are a wide array of imaginative choices we can use besides “giving in” and “fighting back.” Our shared DNA can always pull us through.
It’s not always easy to come up with nonviolent approaches to conflict and sometimes it might be difficult to find out what they are in a given situation. But we certainly can say confidently what they are NOT.
They are not giving in passively or fighting back aggressively.